A Mother's Love Has to Have a unconditional Presence 

 How can we begin to explain the ways of mother's love. It cannot be described in words only god can describe it. Today I would like to say something about it. Have you ever seen the mother’s unconditional love? When a cat gives birth to the baby. She presents her love by holding the baby close to her heart and it doesn’t harm the baby. And when she changes her place to protect her baby. 

She holds her by her teeth which looks like the baby is feeling pain and it can be died. But the actuality is this that the mother holds the baby very carefully and it never hurts the baby. Except it there are many uncountable views and stories which indicates that how is mother love priceless. When a mother lover her child, she ever thinks that she will get the love back ever even she knows only one thing that how much love can she give to the child.

 A mother’s first priority is her child because this is the most important part of her life. She can’t even think badly about the child. Sometimes a mother has to be strict but this i9s just because the welfare of the child and we just think that why did she do this.

A mother always give the best thing to her child and it always nourish the baby with the best things. Whenever she sees that her child can go to the wrong path, she makes the child understand and teaches her that what is wrong and what is right. 

She tells the child that what is to do and what is not. And if the child doesn’t listen the mother and start ignoring her lessons, the child gets in problem but still a mother is with her and take the child overcome from the problem. 

Some mothers use the strict way to make their children understand and the children get that language too. A mother cares the child more than herself and she always keeps the baby secure from all the bad elements. A mother has the most important part of anyone’s life. It can be said that a mother has unconditional love for the child and she can become most strict person in the world only for the welfare of her child.

A child is the most important part of the mother’s life and a mother is also the most important part of a child’s life. Hence at last I would like to say only one thing that I can’t describe her priceless love in words because her love has no limit. And because of this, it is said that “A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take”. Well I would like to thank my mother and I salute all the mothers in the world.

We do not have to win our mothers’ love. This gives us an additional dose of self esteem, which comes from the feeling of deserving to be loved for who we are, not what we do.

But how can we love someone who we don’t even know yet? How can we love someone so small? Because they are a part of us, and fill a gap we never knew existed, flooding us with tenderness and fragility.

When we take on the role of motherhood, we reveal a new part of ourselves. We are stronger, capable of sacrificing everything for our children.

As a biological mechanism, this bond is vital. Babies are not capable of surviving alone, and need an adult to feed, protect and care for them until they are capable of taking on life on their own

But does this bond go further than that? There is research that points to real changes in the brains of women who have had children.

Mythology and religion make multiple references to the unconditional love between mother and child, and the power of motherhood in general.

This is the case of Demeter, goddess of agriculture in Greek mythology, who, after her daughter Persephone is kidnapped, gives rise to the changing of the seasons.

Or the Virgin Mary of Catholic doctrine, who becomes pregnant although she is a virgin, and sees her son die on the cross. She goes on to defeat the Devil himself, who is not capable of looking at her directly.

For thousands of years, we have revered this unbreakable bond for the strength it gives to those who share it.

“Mothers voluntarily forget that the umbilical cord is cut at birth”

-Vera Caspar-

The protection we get from this unconditional love helps us to grow up with an emotional safety net.

Our mother’s love sustains us, just as we are, without changing, and helps us move forward with self-confidence.

  

IS THERE ANYTHING DEEPER THAN A MOTHER’S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?

There is a deeper form of love available to us as adults—deeper than a mother’s unconditional love. There is love that flourishes after our partner comes to deeply know and understand us. This love is conditional. It is based in part on our willingness to honor certain commitments we make. It is based in part on our willingness to accept that the world looks different when seen through our partner’s eyes. Sometimes we make compromises to accommodate the ways our partners see the world, not because they demand we do so, but because we choose to do so. In my relationship with Hannah one of my compromises was to stop flirting. I like to flirt, I always have. After Hannah and I married she told me she perceived my flirting as disrespectful, so I stopped.

For us to grow to the point of having healthy adult/adult love relationships we must individuate from our parents. Part of this process occurs as we grow ourselves up in relationship to our parents, and part of this occurs when they die. However, if we romanticize the unconditional love we received, or wanted to receive from our parents, we run the risk of never fully individuating.

We can cling to the love we experienced as a child, and even try to recreate it as adults, or we can recognize it for what it was—appropriate and healthy for children—and then move toward a deeper love, a more penetrating love, a more grown up love than anything we have ever experienced before.

And if we do so, and if our moms are emotionally healthy, they will be happy for us.

Ironically, if we create a sufficiently mature way of relating with our partners, we can feel as if we’re experiencing unconditional love. This occurs as a result of being so consistent and so congruent with our agreements that we seldom need to renegotiate our agreements or express our disappointment. And when we do need to express ourselves, we do so maturely and lovingly